To Overcome Fear?
How can you overcome fear, to overcoming fear
and become fearless?
let us begin by going through this simple exercise. Now, name me
the most scariest ghost movie you have watched; the one that has
greatly frightened you, haunting you with scary images and imagination
after watching it. Good! Now go get hold of the disk of that movie.
And what are we going to do with it? We are going to watch it of
course and I want you to keep watching it everyday for a week or
now, after watching it so many times, what is your comment on the
show again? I bet you be so bored of the show after repeatedly watching
it. And now, is it still as scary as it was the first time you watched
it? Definitely not I am sure. Perhaps, you are even laughing at
the stupidity of how the ghost looks and the way it walks, a scary
movie turn comedy for you?
well, that is exact idea! The best way to overcome fear is to jump
into it and face it, feel the fear, be in touch with fear, live
it and let fear be part of you. And just like repeatedly watching
the scary movie, to get so used to fear that you will conquer your
fear without you even knowing it. The more you confront your fear,
the more comfortable with fear you will get each time and when you
get more and more comfortable, that fear of yours will just naturally
disappear. To name an example, for those of you who have been on
stage before, you would have understood that the more you go onto
stage, the lesser the fear will be each time. No doubt that you
may be nervous but once you are up there on the stage, the rhythm
will just slowly kick in. In fact, they are many who at the end
of the day, actually look forward to their next stage performance
or presentation and that is because they know they can perform and
do better the next time.
what exactly is fear? To understand, fear is afterall just an emotional
feel of uneasiness of ours. In short, we self created fear. To begin
with, fear wasn't even there till we actually created it! And what
is the reason behind? One of the key causes of fear is uncertainty,
we fear the undesirable outcome of things; we fear that things will
not go in the way we want them to be and we begin to anticipate
and imagine the scary and ugly side of things. But to just ask back
yourself, has things really happened?
is just the problem with many of us; the bad habits of ours as human,
to have the tendency to think negatively. Before things could really
fail, many of us have already in our mind sentenced ourselves failure.
And to be actually having such negative thoughts of failure, it
is just very natural that fear would arise within us. But again,
may I just ask, is this fear really necessary? It is really necessary
to fear for what that has yet to happened? No! This is definitely
not the way life should be, this is just too tiring a way to be
living your life. An enjoyable one is how your life should instead
be, isn't it? Think about it. Have you been unknowingly giving yourself
too much stress, unnecessarily fearing too much for what you shouldn't
this. In life, there is never a thing known as the perfect; there
can never be a perfect outcome. No matter how good the result is,
there is just bound to be still flaw to it. Even the wisest ruler
can err in his judgment; even the strongest army can be defeated.
So to be saying, there is absolutely nothing wrong with failure.
Instead, you should be ready to face and accept failure, to learn
from your mistake and correct them. And the very first mistake to
correct now is to stop fearing for the unnecessary, to stop fearing
for what that has yet to even happen.
see, every event that happened in life is interrelated in one-way
or another. Just like the sun that affects the healthy growth of
the plants, your thought is going to very much affect your action
and your action will ultimately affect next the final outcome of
things. Think positive and you shall react positively, think negative
and you shall react negatively; this is natural human reaction.
to be talking about fear, what would fear be associated with? Fear
would bring about the growth of courage. It is actually with fear
that brought about courage and wisdom; it is with the experience
of fear that we been through that we grow to be wiser. Well, I don't
suppose you would stupidly jump into a pool of fire? And that is
because you understand from your experience of fear that fire will
hurt you. But then again, if we have allowed ourselves to be frightened
off just because we were burned once, we would not have gone on
to understand and enjoy the many other benefits of the use of fire
which has significantly helped improve the quality of our living.
similarly, if you allowed fear to stop you from exploring life,
there is no way you could ever learn; there is no way you can ever
progress in life. And I am sure that this is not the way you want
your life to be? Now, understand this. Fear is there not as your
enemy; fear existed only because you created them. The greatest
enemy is ultimately still you yourself. Nobody but you can stop
you from achieving what you want in life. Well, to be thinking and
planning ahead is good but to be fearing ahead and bring yourself
down is not. To work to the best of our capabilities, that is what
we should be doing. But if you were to self create that obstacle
of fear, do you think you can achieve that? Have you actually allow
yourself the chance to work to your fullest capabilities? Now, if
you can create fear, you have the power to similarly destroy fear.
let me just ask you this last question. Now, why is it that you
think you are actually walking and running on your twos now? Well,
that is because you, as a baby back then, were able to overcome
and conquer your fear. Despite facing uncertainty and repeatedly
falling and hurting yourself, you courageously picked yourself up
each time never giving up learning to walk till you triumphantly
succeed. And if you can do it back then, why is it you can't do
to befriend fear and let fear be a pushing force to push you on
in life or to give in to fear and let fear overrun your life with
failures, it is your call. Think about it. Fear and courage lies
just between a line, which side of the line are you going to be
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